Obsessive Compulsive Disorders and Addictions

According to J.E. Talley an obsession is “a persistently recurring thought or feeling that is egodystonic; that is, it is not experienced as voluntarily produced but rather as something that invades consciousness. Psychoanalytic thinkers consider it to be the result of denying certain unconscious wishes or fears. While one obsession derived from a fear may restrict action, another obsession may tempt one to act out a certain impulse, and still another may take the form of an all-consuming preoccupation with a particular philosophical question. An obsession is pathological to the extent that it impairs productive work and loving relationships. When an individual experiences sufficient distress due to obsessions, psychotherapy is recommended in order to uncover the basis of the obsession and reduce its frequency, duration, and intensity.” Baker Encyclopedia of Psychology & Counselling (second edition)
The Merriam-Webster dictionary define Addiction as a “compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance (as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; broadly: persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.”
Many people suffer unnecessarily with all kinds of obsessions and addictions. According to Francois most obsessions and addictions he has encountered in his practise is the result of people’s vain attempts at pain management. It is actually there solution for the underlying emotional pain they are experiencing. Hence if you simply focus on behavioural change asking to stop the pornography, alcohol abuse or whatever obsessive behaviour the person is doing you are in essence trying to take their solution away and hence you experience a lot of resistance from the client. However if you resolve the underlying emotional pain through a Skype session(s) then the person don’t need his/her solution anymore. Most people find it very easy to stop the behavioural pattern once the underlying pain has been resolved. For example Francois once ministered to man who obsessively had to open all the drawers in his house. He simply felt compelled to open every drawer in his kitchen before he could proceed to the living room. If he would not open the drawers he would experience such intense fear that he would return to the Kitchen to open the drawers to see what is inside. During the session the client’s fears was exposed. He felt a fear of death he learned during a childhood memory where he was nearly killed on a train-bridge combined with the same fear he felt watching a movie on the Vietnam War. Somehow the traps set for the soldiers combined with the “trap” he experienced on the train-bridge drove his compulsive behaviours. Once the beliefs producing his fears were resolved in both the memories of the train bridge and the movie he watched he easily managed to stop the compulsive opening of the drawers. Because he found a solution for the fear that was driving his compulsive behaviour he could easily stop the behaviour once no solution was required since the fears were resolved. In a similar manner many people have become addicted as their own solutions (which has become their biggest problem) for pain (Alcohol, gambling, pornography, work-satisfaction, etc) Resolving the pain through the ministry approach completely negates their need for a solution and hence they overcome the addiction.

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