Written Orientation

How do I implement the principles in practice? How does it all pan out in a real one-on-one (Skype) session?

My prayer is that, through the reading of this Written Orientation, you may be better able to understand the approach I use and consent to the Principles pertained in the Written Orientation.
Reading the Written Orientation might also be helpful in moving you into the right position to get the help you need during your own journey of mind renewal.

Preparing the client
I usually spend about 20 minutes preparing a person for the ministry they are about to receive. I start off by openly explaining to the client that I use a Christian approach. I make it clear to them that they do not need to be a Christian or to become a Christian for the principles to work, but that it is the perspective from which I work, and that I have found it to be most effective.
I then proceed to explain the principles in more detail, so that the person will have no surprises during the session, and I give them ample opportunity to ask all their questions even before
they commit to ministry.

The dentist analogy
I use the dentist analogy as a starting point to prepare the client in terms of what they can expect during the session. I find it beneficial to use concrete physical examples to explain the abstract concepts and principles. By using concrete examples, I find that most people can relate to the principles and prepare
themselves mentally for the ministry-journey ahead of them.
There are many similarities between going to the dentist and receiving truth from Jesus.
In both settings we are usually already in pain by the time we seek help. We often hesitate, knowing it will be a painful process. Both the dentist and Jesus focus on and find their way towards the most painful place in our lives. In both settings we need to share all our resistance with the “surgeon”, in order that he/He can calm our fears and convince us that it is in our own best interest to face the pain.

During the first Skype session I might use an abbreviated explanation
of this Written Orientation.

I use a set of Christian principles to encourage people to get into their pain. So what we are going to do here today is a little bit like going to the dentist. You get a nice comfortable chair and the first thing the dentist says is: ‘Open up!’ We are often hesitant to ‘Open up’ because we know how much we hurt inside. If we could give all our reasons for hesitating to the dentist, he could then explain to us why it is really in our own best interest to ‘Open up.’ Once we have no reason left not to open up, we will.
The dentist then goes to the place where it hurts most, where the pain is, and it is a bit uncomfortable, but if he is a good dentist then three days later we will eat our apple and rejoice in the fact that we got the problem solved. It is very much the same here today, but now we don’t need to open our mouths,
but our hearts to the Lord Jesus Christ. We often hesitate to do this, because we know the pain on the inside; but if we can share with Him all our reasons for hesitating, we will find that He is more than able to convince us why it really is in our own best interest to open our hearts to Him. The moment we do open our lives, we end up in the place where it hurts most, but whatever we face and bring to Jesus, He heals, comforts and restores.

Similarities between salvation and mind-renewal
“You don’t have to be a Christian for the principles to work, but if you are a Christian you will know how you became one. You first had to know the truth about your lost sinful state and how utterly helpless you are to undo your sin and save yourself.
The moment we acknowledge how lost we are in our sin, we are positioned to receive the Lord’s saving grace. There was nothing we could do to undo our sin or to save ourselves, yet the
moment we acknowledged the truth about our sinful condition, the Lord Jesus Christ saved us. In that moment we realized that He has already provided everything for our salvation. In the same way we need to know the truth about our shame, guilt, anger, fear, helplessness, and hopelessness. The moment we
acknowledge our pain, we will also realize how utterly helpless we are to comfort ourselves. We are equally helpless to comfort ourselves and renew our own minds, as we were to save
ourselves from sin! If, however, we face the truth of our pain, wewill discover that He has already provided everything needed in order for us to be totally set free! So it is really not about what I
know as facilitator, or my great advice, or clever diagnosis, but it is simply an opportunity for you to become honest before the Lord!

How do I get into my pain?
“So the big question is: how do I get into my pain? How do I position myself in my pain? There is one principle I can share to help you. We very often need to let go of what we think bothers us to face what really bothers us. If you think about this present moment, you will find it is really just a split second in time, which immediately turns into memory and becomes part of our past.
We cannot really live in the present only. If we did live in the present only, then everything would be new to us continually and we would not have the ability to accumulate knowledge. In
fact our minds continually go to the past to draw information, so that we can know how to respond in the present. Even if you want to respond to anything I have just said, you will have to go
to memory to do so.
“It is really the interpretations in those past memories that create the problem and keep us in bondage. Let me give you an example: If someone were to strike me on the nose right now,
my nose would bleed, even in the present. What is also going to happen is that my mind is immediately going to go to past memories to draw information, to know how to
respond to the person who struck me. So every place that is remotely similar to the present will be accessed through association, as the mind searches for information, to know how to respond. Every memory this person reminded me of, or where I have tasted blood, been ill-treated and so on,
will be accessed. Now, say for example one of those memories the mind accessed was when I was bullied in primary school and the bully knocked my front teeth out. Then my mind will access that memory and if I have not managed to totally forgive the bully, then I will feel all the anger from that memory
together with the anger of being struck in the present. I will, however, think it is this person (who just punched me) who makes me so angry, when in fact he is only responsible for a fraction of what I feel right now. Although he does make me angry because he punched me, I will also struggle to become emotionally free if I focus on him, alone, as the only source of my anger. Only once I release the present experience, and begin to face the real sources of my anger and resolve the previously unresolved
lies and emotions, will I find it possible to resolve the present anger as well. If I hold him, in the present, solely responsible for all the pain and anger I am feeling, I will never be free of those deeper rooted issues that are constantly triggered and produce the emotional turmoil inside of me. Thus, there are certain recent memories and triggers that you will have to release (even though doing it will hurt) to find the source of the real pain! Once the real pain is resolved, you will be free to mop up whatever pain
still remains in the present or recent past. “Therefore my job (as a facilitator) is really just to encourage
you to position yourself in the original memories, so that the Lord can do for you what neither you nor anyone else can do for you.

Four categories of emotion
“In order to know how to encourage you to position yourself to receive comfort from the Lord, I divide all emotion that might surface during the session into one of four categories: namely –
anger, vulnerable emotions, guilt and sadness.

“The first category is anger, which also includes resentment, bitterness, hate, frustration and any vengeful emotions. I once ministered to a lady who had been sexually molested by her father. Every day before he dropped her at school, he sexually abused his little girl. This carried on right through her primary school years into her teenage years. When I asked her what she felt like in those early memories, she told me how she hated her father! Now, she had good reason to hate, because what he did was wrong. I then encouraged her to look at all the reasons for why she was angry. There were many reasons for the anger and hate. She was angry because of what he did. She was angry at her mom for not protecting her. She was angry with herself for not talking about it earlier. She was angry with God
for allowing her to be born into this particular family. She was angry with her best friend at school for gossiping about what happened to her.
“There can be so many reasons for why we are angry, but we cannot let go of what we have not owned. Once you have made a thorough inventory and know all the reasons for being angry, I will ask you if you feel free to release the anger or whether you have hesitancy in letting go. Many times we are hesitant. There is always a reason or reasons. I will encourage you to find the reason(s) why you hesitate, so that we can lift it up to the Lord. The Lord is willing and able to talk you out of every reason for holding onto the anger, until you are free to release it. “For example, the lady in my example believed that if she let
the anger go, she wouldn’t be watchful. When I asked her why she needed to be watchful, she said: “If I am not watchful, then what happened to me will happen to my children.” So I asked her: “Does it feel true that the anger protects your children by keeping you watchful?”, and she said yes. “I asked her if she would be willing to hear what the Lord wanted her to know about this and she agreed. When she
listened to the Lord, He simply showed her that He never sleeps. I asked her how that related to the anger and she said: ‘Well, when I sleep then I can’t watch my kids anyway, but it seems the Lord is always watching over them and He can warn me, at any time, if they are in danger.’ I asked her if she would be willing to rather trust the Lord instead of the anger to keep her kids safe, and she agreed. Now, if that was the only reason for holding onto the anger, she would now be free to let the anger go. “To summarize, you need to know all the reasons why you are angry and you need to have no reason left for holding onto the anger. Then you must simply choose to let go of the anger and
it will fall away!

“What do we do if we lift a belief up to the Lord and you don’t receive anything from Him? For a start, the belief will then still feel true. For example, if you believe that if you let the anger go,
your kids won’t be safe, and you don’t receive anything from the Lord, then it will still feel the same way. I will then ask you what if feels like to know, if you let the anger go, they won’t be safe? You might say helpless or hopeless. We then follow those emotions to their root and once they are resolved, you should
be able to let the anger go. You will be able to release it on condition that there are no other reasons (beliefs) for holding onto the anger.

Vulnerable emotions
“The second category I call vulnerable emotions. That is all <span style=”line-height: 1.5;”>the emotions that do not fit into the emotional categories of </span><span style=”line-height: 1.5;”>guilt, sadness or anger. It is all the other emotions, like shame, </span><span style=”line-height: 1.5;”>helplessness, hopelessness, fear, loneliness, worthlessness </span><span style=”line-height: 1.5;”>and so on.</span>

“To use fear as an example, I once ministered to a lady who suffered from claustrophobia. She felt fear whenever she moved into a small confined space. The moment she could feel some of the fear, I encouraged her by asking her something like: ‘If your mind could bring you the root of this fear, the memory where you felt it the first time or most intensely, would you be willing
to face it?’ “She felt the fear because her mind, at some level, was already drawing information from the memory. You can look for it consciously and whatever you find might be helpful. You can
consciously search for the place in your past where you felt the fear for the first time. Was it my first day at school? Was it when I went bungee jumping? Searching for the memory content consciously is not wrong. I simply want to point out that it is not necessary because at some level of your mind you already
know where the fear is stemming from; otherwise you would not have felt any emotion of fear.
“It is as simple as breathing. You can breathe consciously, but whether you do it consciously or not, your mind is always controlling your breathing; you are just not always aware of it. In the same way, your mind always goes to memory, whether you are aware of it or not. If you can feel the emotion and you
have no reason for avoiding the painful past event (where the emotions originated), then the memory will just come to you.
If you have resistance or hesitancy, for example, because you believe something like: ‘If I remember the root, it will be too much for me and I will die’, then we need to first resolve this belief before we can make further progress. “But if you have no reason to avoid the root memory and you can feel the emotion, then you are really feeling the emotion in the present because your mind knows exactly the memory it is drawing the information from. If you would trust your mind to bring that place (the memory) to you, it will just come to you. The lady in my example remembered a time from her childhood
when she was on a boat. Her brothers and cousins rocked the boat and the more they rocked the boat, the more she screamed, because she could not swim. Eventually the boat capsized and she was trapped underneath the boat while it was sinking into the dam. Once in the memory, I might ask you what you feel, or what it feels like underneath this boat, for example. This lady said she wanted to get away.
“I might then ask a question like: ‘…and could you get away?’ She might say: ‘No, I could not.’ and I might then say ‘…and where does that leave you?’ She might say: ‘Well, the air bubble underneath the boat is getting smaller and smaller.’ I might then ask: ‘…and what is the consequence for you? Where does it leave you if the air bubble keeps getting smaller?’ She might respond with: ‘I am trapped and I’m going to die!’ Now we know that this is not the truth. If she had died she would not be sitting in my office! Yet to her, it still feels true! It feels as if ‘I am trapped and going to die.’ “It is when her mind accesses this belief that the fear is triggered. Once we have those three in place, a real memory containing enough emotion to determine the belief producing the pain, we are positioned to receive from the Lord. I will then simply ask questions like: ‘Would you be willing to hear what
the Lord wants you to know in this place?’ If you are not willing, then we look at why there is resistance and resolve it. If you are willing, then we simply lift it up to the Lord. “One of four things then usually happens.
 Some people receive truth visually from the Lord. They might just see something like a sunset. If I ask them if it communicates anything to them, they might say something like: ‘It is almost as if the Lord is saying to me, it is over, you are safe now.’
 Others don’t see anything; they just hear a word or words in their mind. Something like: ‘You are safe now. I will not let you die.’ If those words are from Christ, it sets them free.
 Yet others don’t see or hear anything; they just get someinward realization. It is almost as if nothing happens, but then it becomes peaceful and calm. When I ask them how they explain it, they simply say things like: ‘Well, I just realized it is over and I am safe.’ It is the same truth. It
just did not come to them in such a dramatic fashion or package.
 The last possibility is nothing happens at all. They feel the fear, they focus on the thoughts and memory; I lift it up to the Lord and nothing happens! When nothing happens, it is never because the Lord does not want to set you free, but always because there is still something you need to
own or face. I understand this well. “When it seems as if nothing is happening, I will simply encourage you by asking more questions like: ‘Is there anything you feel with the fear?” or ‘What aspect of the memory bothers you most?’ or ‘If another memory is connected to this fear and it could come to you, would you be willing to face it?’ If there is resistance, we deal with it. The person might have stolen the
boat and be hesitant to face it, believing the Lord will never forgive them, or they might not want to forgive themselves for endangering their own lives and the lives of others. Once they face this and hear from the Lord how He has already forgiven them, they might be more than willing to keep exploring the fear.
“Sometimes a new memory might surface, for example – a memory of being attacked by a burglar who held a knife against your throat, while saying: ‘If you make a noise, I will cut your throat. ‘It is very much the same belief as ‘I am trapped and going to die.’ Once this belief is owned and lifted up to the Lord,
the person will receive truth from the Lord. “Sometimes there are no new memories surfacing and the
person might simply say: ‘I don’t know what else bothers me.’ I usually say something like: ‘Well, I don’t know either, but would you be willing to keep looking, and exploring this memory?’ If they are willing and choose to keep looking, they always find a clue. Sometimes this clue might be hidden, but people always find it! For example, the person might say: ‘I do remember that I needed help.’ I might respond with: ‘…and did somebody help you?’ And they might say: ‘No, no… I just see everybody
swimming away from me.’ I might then say something like: ‘… and what does it feel like to see everybody swimming away from you like that?’ And they may respond with: ‘It feels very lonely, like they are abandoning me.’ I might then ask them: ‘What is the consequence of being abandoned, left alone underneath the boat?’ The person might say: ‘Well, I cannot swim!’ “What really bothered the person here is not only that they were going to die, but also that in their moment of greatest need,
they were abandoned, and the fact that they lacked something (for example, the skill of being able to swim) that everybody else had, and therefore something terrible was going to happen.
Once this belief is owned, the word of the Lord will come to the person! The Lord will speak to the person in whatever way He chooses. I share this because sometimes we get a bit “stuck”,
but it is never because the Lord does not want to heal you – it is always because there is still something you need to own or face! The moment we are positioned for His Grace, His word will
reach us, setting us free!

“The third category of emotion is guilt. We usually feel guilty because we are guilty! For example, I might not like smokers, so when a man blows his smoke into my face, I kill him! Once the anger is resolved, you might ask me: ‘What do you feel when you think about the memory where the man blew his smoke in your face?’ and I might say: ‘Well, I feel a little bit guilty.’ You might ask: ‘Why do you feel guilty?’ and I might say: ‘I think I might have been overly aggressive?’ You might then conclude: ‘Based on what you have shared with me, it certainly looks like you are guilty? Would you be willing to confess it to the Lord?’ “If you are willing to confess it, I will encourage you to say a simple prayer of confession. A prayer like: “Lord I have been overly aggressive. I should not have killed him, but I did. I am
guilty. Will you please forgive me? Thank you for cleansing me.” I will then ask you just to focus on the memory and feel the guilt, and I will pray that the Lord will show you how He has forgiven you. Once you experience the Lord’s forgiveness, in the moment of guilt, it will completely resolve the guilt.

“There are times when we are not guilty but we think that we are guilty! For example, I once ministered to a man who told me how, as a young child, he had brought his dad a bottle of vodka. His mother had warned him not to do it, since his father was a serious alcoholic. The moment the mom left for work, the father told him to go and buy some sweets in town. As the son left for town the father called after him: ‘Oh son, I ordered a bottle from the bottle store. Will you pick it up for me on your way home?’
Wanting the sweets, the child answered: ‘Ok, dad.’ “The son went to town, bought the goodies, picked up the drink, sneaked it into the house and gave it to his dad, who drank, choked and died! Many years later this man might feel guilty, thinking he had killed his father. I treat all guilt as real. We confessed his sin and asked God to show him how He had forgiven him or to bring him truth. In this instance, the man did
not experience a sense of being forgiven, but the false guilt was completely resolved as the Lord declared his innocence. There had never been any wrongdoing that needed forgiveness. “He just heard a word like: ‘It was not your fault’ or ‘You did what any child would have done.’ So whether the guilt is real or
false, the Lord Jesus can resolve both. Guilt gets resolved in two ways; either by you experiencing the Lord’s forgiveness or by hearing Him declare your innocence!

Sorrow and Sadness
“The fourth and last category of emotion is sorrow or sadness. We usually feel sad because we have lost something that was very special and dear to us. At other times we feel sad because we expected something special to enter our lives, but then it never materialized. I am not saying that if you lost a child this morning, all the pain will be gone today. However, to the degree that you are in touch with the pain and sorrow, the Lord will comfort you. “You definitely don’t have to carry grief and sadness for many years. I once ministered to a lady who lost two children and carried the pain for 40 years. The moment she embraced the loss and had no reason to keep holding onto the sadness, the Lord comforted her! A deep sadness like hers can often be felt physically, for example in your stomach, heart, chest, throat, head or shoulders. The moment you are free to let the Lord comfort you, I simply pray and ask Him to lift the sorrow from you. Once again no reason or belief must be present for holding onto the sadness. You may wonder: ‘Why would anybody want to hold onto sadness?’ Well, sometimes we want to hold onto sadness, because deep inside we have certain beliefs about what might happen if the sadness were no longer available.
For example, if I believe that I will forget my child the moment I am no longer sad, then I might resist the Lord comforting me. The resistance is based on my fear of forgetting my child. Resistance might also be present if I believe that, should the sadness be gone, my child might think that I no longer love him.
However, if I could listen to the Lord and receive truth from Him, that I will still be able to love and to remember my child after the sadness is removed, then I might be more than willing to allow
the Lord to comfort me. “Once you have no more resistance to receiving ministry, I would then just pray for you and the Lord would remove the sadness.

“Lastly, what we share is confidential. I will not be telling anybody else what you tell me. The only exception would be if, by breaking confidentiality, I can protect life or prevent injury to the weak and vulnerable. If you have already killed someone you can tell me, since you will only be doing so to get rid of your own guilt, resentment and sadness. However, if you tell me: ‘I am going to kill someone tomorrow’ and I can do something to protect life, then I have to protect life – even it means breaking
confidentiality. Based on the laws of your country or state certain exceptions might be possible due to the continued changes in our global village.
“This, in quite a big nut-shell, is how I work. Are you comfortable
with it? Do you have any questions?”

Obtaining agreement to minister
If the person is comfortable and doesn’t have any more questions, I will lead them in a prayer, asking the Lord to help them to be honest about their pain and to be open about any hesitancy they might have. I will pray for honesty with the Lord in order that they can share their resistance with Him and that
He can encourage them to face all they need to face. After the prayer I will simply ask them to feel inside themselves and if it is not peaceful, to feel the emotion. I might encourage them to just feel, since it is more important to feel the emotion than to describe or name it accurately. If they don’t want to start with the emotion, they can start with any memory, whether it is from the recent or distant past. Any memory they suspect may produce some emotion if they speak about it, would be a good place
to start. Otherwise the client can really start wherever they want to, since the Lord will lead us!

I trust that reading this Written Orientation will contribute towards us making rapid progress during the Skype Session and that you will be able to make an informed decision as to whether you want to submit to ministry or not.

Adapted from Chapter 10 of  TASTE LIFE Healing the Wounded by Francois Mostert

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